Coaching practices for Conservation of Resources Theory with Friends

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  • Right now I actually have some breathing room and energy to spare, and I don’t want to just coast through it
  • Whenever I get busy or stressed, my friendships are the first thing I let slide
  • I have this vague sense I’m running low but I couldn’t tell you on what
  • When I’m slammed, the first things I sacrifice are my sleep, my health, the people closest to me
  • My first instinct is always that I need more

Practices that may help

  1. Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical
    Stevan Hobfoll’s conservation of resources (COR) theory holds that stress occurs when valued resources are threatened, lost, or fail to return after investment. The theory predicts that people with more resources are more resilient and that resource loss is disproportionately more powerful than resource gain — which explains why the same stressor hits harder when you’re already depleted. Building, protecting, and strategically deploying resources is the practical application.
  2. Invest resources in gain-loops when conditions allow
    Resources beget resources — when you have surplus, invest it where it compounds.
    Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical
  3. Invest in social resources as the highest-return resilience investment
    Strong, diverse social relationships are the single most robust resilience resource across virtually all stressor types.
    Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical
  4. Audit your current resource base
    Take stock of where you stand in each resource category — objects, conditions, characteristics, and energies — before the next stressor arrives.
    Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical
  5. Prioritize protecting primary resources above pursuing secondary ones
    When under threat, guard your most foundational resources first — health, key relationships, income — even at the cost of secondary gains.
    Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical
  6. Inventory available resources before adding anything new
    List all time, space, information, and energy already present in or around the problem — solutions often hide there.
    TRIZ: Systematic Invention and the Logic of Contradictions
  7. Triage your outer layers to protect inner-layer capacity
    You cannot expand your inner circle without something moving outward — the constraint is cognitive, not motivational.
    Dunbar's Number
  8. Counteract propinquity bias in friend selection
    Proximity is a powerful friendship filter — but it is not the same as fit.
    The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger)
  9. Tend to yourself before tending to others
    Sustainable tend-and-befriend requires that the caregiver’s own basic needs are met — otherwise helping depletes rather than regulates.
    Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
  10. Invest in the people physically nearest you
    Your immediate neighbors, officemates, and classmates are your highest-ROI friendship investments — propinquity is already working.
    The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger)

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