Coaching practices for Credibility Reliability Intimacy Self Orientation

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• I’m competent and I deliver, but people still hold me at arm’s length
• I keep everything at work behind a polished, guarded front
• When I want people to take me seriously I tend to lead with my résumé and how much I know, and I can feel it land as bragging
• I show people the polished, competent version of me and never the messy in-progress stuff, and I’ve realized that’s exactly why even my close relationships feel oddly flat
• I become a noticeably different person depending on who I’m around

Practices that may help

1. Audit and reduce your self-orientation
   Self-orientation is the denominator: a small increase in it wipes out gains in all three numerator variables.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
2. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
3. The Trust Equation, Made Practical
   The Trust Equation (Maister, Green, and Galford) holds that trustworthiness = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) ÷ self-orientation. The model is a practitioner framework rather than a rigorously tested theory, but it usefully names the levers — especially self-orientation, which is the single biggest trust-killer most leaders overlook.
4. Signal credibility without claiming it
   Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
5. Practice calibrated self-disclosure to allow genuine connection
   Share something true about your inner experience — not performed, not calculated — to let someone in.
   Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness
6. Track self-stability over time
   Notice when your sense of who you are shifts dramatically with context, mood, or others’ opinions — this instability is itself informative.
   Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical
7. Make a small public commitment that locks in the identity
   A simple public or written commitment to an identity generates internal pressure to act consistently with it.
   Identity Priming, Made Practical
8. Build self-knowledge from behavioral evidence
   Ground your self-beliefs in specific past behaviors, not feelings or others’ opinions.
   Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical
9. Moving from other-validation to self-validation
   Gradually replace the need for your partner’s approval with the ability to hold your own self-regard.
   Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage
10. The practice of living consciously
    Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical

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