Coaching practices for Debrief Questions

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  • When I ask myself “how did that go?” my mind just hands me the single best or worst moment and calls it done
  • A handed-off task wraps up and we just move on to the next thing
  • That big thing just wrapped up and didn’t land how I wanted, and I can already feel myself rushing on to the next thing
  • I finish a session and just move on without ever sitting down to name what actually worked and what didn’t
  • In these conversations I fire off question after question like an interrogation, and the other person closes up rather than opening

Practices that may help

  1. Use structured debrief questions to guide any review
    Replace "how did it go?" with specific questions that move through each stage of the cycle.
    Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice
  2. Debrief after delegated tasks to build for the next level
    A delegation debrief is not a performance review — it is a joint analysis of what you both learned.
    Delegation Levels, Made Practical
  3. Run the four-question AAR within 24 hours of any significant event
    What was planned? What happened? Why the gap? What next? — answered while memory is fresh.
    After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
  4. Debrief each session with a structured reflection
    Write a three-question debrief right after practice to convert experience into learning.
    Growth-Edge Training: Practicing at the Edge of Your Ability
  5. Use OARS to make the person feel understood
    Open questions, Affirmations, Reflections, Summaries — the four core micro-skills.
    Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
  6. Run brief after-action reviews without blame
    After any significant outcome — success or failure — ask four questions together as a team.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  7. Invite input explicitly and specifically
    Ask for candid input on a specific topic — not "any thoughts?" but "where do you see this plan failing?"
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  8. Debrief performances to recover from threat appraisals
    After a high-stakes event, restructure what happened to extract learning and reduce the residual threat signal.
    Challenge vs. Threat Appraisal, Made Practical
  9. Debrief against process goals, not just the outcome
    After performance, evaluate whether you executed your process goals before evaluating the result.
    Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance
  10. Reduce: convert main notes to questions in the cue column
    After the session, cover your notes and write a question in the cue column for each main idea.
    Cornell Note-Taking: A System for Learning, Not Just Recording

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