Coaching practices for Defer Judgment
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep giving the same person the benefit of the doubt
- I’m about to lock in a judgment and I’m only seeing the evidence that backs it
- I’ve made hundreds of these judgment calls over the years and yet my gut feels no sharper than when I started
- I feel completely sure about this, and a quiet part of me knows that’s exactly when I’ve been most wrong before
- Halfway through what someone’s saying I’ve already finished their sentence in my head and I’m just waiting for my turn to talk
Practices that may help
- Update your attribution when evidence warrants
Charitable interpretation is a starting point, not a final verdict — revise it when facts change.
Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain - Judgments of Learning: Why You Misjudge What You’ve Learned
Judgments of learning (JOLs) are in-the-moment predictions about how well information will be remembered later. Thomas Nelson’s research showed JOLs are often inaccurate — biased upward by current processing fluency — causing learners to declare items "learned" prematurely and under-study material they will later forget. Delayed JOLs and retrieval-based checks produce more accurate predictions and better study-time allocation. - Consider the opposite before finalizing a judgment
Deliberately generate the case for the conclusion you are not reaching.
Motivated Reasoning - Build wisdom through case-based reflection
After a consequential decision, reconstruct what you perceived, what you valued, and what you’d change.
Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom - Slow down on one-way doors
For irreversible decisions, invest in deliberation proportional to the downside — not to your confidence.
The Two-Way Door - Suspend judgment for one conversation
Enter a conversation committing to not completing the other person’s thought or forming a response before they finish.
Beginner's Mind (Shoshin), Made Practical - Restudy decision protocol
Use a defined decision rule — not a feeling — to determine which items get additional study.
Judgments of Learning: Why You Misjudge What You’ve Learned - Remember what you can’t see
You’re reacting to a sliver of their behavior with no view of the pressures behind it.
Generous Interpretation - Replace judgment with non-judgmental awareness
Observe what is actually happening with curious interest rather than approval or disapproval.
The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1 - Score decision quality separately from outcome quality
Judge the process you used — not whether it worked — when you review a past decision.
Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
Related concerns
- Not Things But Judgments
Judgments of learning (JOLs) are in-the-moment predictions about how well information will be remembered later. Thomas Nelson’s research showed JOLs are often inaccurate — biased upward by current processing fluency — causing learners to declare items "learned" prematurely and under-study material they will later forget. Delayed JOLs and retrieval-based checks produce more accurate predictions and better study-time allocation.
- Structured Judgment
Use a defined decision rule — not a feeling — to determine which items get additional study.
Restudy decision protocol
- How To Develop Judgment
After a consequential decision, reconstruct what you perceived, what you valued, and what you’d change.
Build wisdom through case-based reflection
- Deliberate Practice Judgment
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
- Good Judgment Project
After a consequential decision, reconstruct what you perceived, what you valued, and what you’d change.
- Judgments Of Learning Why You Misjudge What You Ve Learned As A Caregiver
Judgments of learning (JOLs) are in-the-moment predictions about how well information will be remembered later. Thomas Nelson’s research showed JOLs are often inaccurate — biased upward by current processing fluency — causing learners to declare items "learned" prematurely and under-study material they will later forget. Delayed JOLs and retrieval-based checks produce more accurate predictions and better study-time allocation.
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