Coaching practices for Deliberate Practice Not Just Practice as a Parent

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• I sit down to practice for an hour but I’m half on my phone the whole time
• When I practice I’m just kind of doing it again and hoping it’s better, because I don’t actually have a clear picture in my head of what great is supposed to look like
• Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
• We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
• I praise my kid constantly

Practices that may help

1. Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
   Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
2. Practice with full, undivided focus
   Short blocks of complete concentration beat long blocks of distracted repetition.
   Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
3. Build sharper mental representations
   Develop a detailed internal model of what excellent performance looks like.
   Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
4. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
5. Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
   Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
6. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
   Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
7. Train at the edge of your ability
   Work on tasks just beyond what you can reliably do, not what you already do well.
   Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
8. Coached practice with targeted feedback
   Attempt the task yourself while a coach observes and provides immediate, specific feedback on process.
   Cognitive Apprenticeship: Learning by Making Thinking Visible
9. Break the skill into components and drill the weak link
   Isolate the specific sub-skill that limits you and train it on its own.
   Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
10. Practice deliberately, not just repeatedly
    Target weaknesses with full focus and feedback, not comfortable repetition.
    Grit: Passion and Perseverance, Honestly Assessed

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