Coaching practices for Deliberate Practice Not Just Practice During Conflict

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• There’s a high-stakes thing coming
• The same fight with this person spirals every single time
• I sit down to practice for an hour but I’m half on my phone the whole time
• When I practice I’m just kind of doing it again and hoping it’s better, because I don’t actually have a clear picture in my head of what great is supposed to look like
• The second something throws me

Practices that may help

1. Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
   Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
2. Stress Inoculation: Pre-Exposure to Prepare for Future Stress
   Deliberately practice under conditions that simulate the stress of future high-stakes performance.
   Deliberate Discomfort: Using Voluntary Challenge to Build Resilience
3. Responding to conflict without escalation
   In a conflict, address the problem without attacking the person.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
4. Practice with full, undivided focus
   Short blocks of complete concentration beat long blocks of distracted repetition.
   Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
5. Build sharper mental representations
   Develop a detailed internal model of what excellent performance looks like.
   Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
6. Practise with the unexpected
   When things go wrong unexpectedly, use that moment as the actual practice rather than a break from it.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
7. Always abide by the three principles
   Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
8. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
   Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
9. Drive all blames into one
   When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
10. Use fierce self-compassion to stay in hard conversations
    Stay present in conflict by meeting your own distress with compassion, so you don't flee or attack.
    Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical

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