Coaching practices for Deliberate Practice Not Just Practice with My Partner
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I sit down to practice for an hour but I’m half on my phone the whole time
- When I practice I’m just kind of doing it again and hoping it’s better, because I don’t actually have a clear picture in my head of what great is supposed to look like
- I look at my partner and barely see them anymore
- My practice has gotten comfortable
- There’s one specific part of this that keeps tripping me up, but I always practice the whole thing start to finish
Practices that may help
- Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work. - Practice with full, undivided focus
Short blocks of complete concentration beat long blocks of distracted repetition.
Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice - Build sharper mental representations
Develop a detailed internal model of what excellent performance looks like.
Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice - The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly
Deliberately practice seeing your partner as a stranger might — with curiosity, not familiarity.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - Train at the edge of your ability
Work on tasks just beyond what you can reliably do, not what you already do well.
Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice - Break the skill into components and drill the weak link
Isolate the specific sub-skill that limits you and train it on its own.
Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice - Embed your virtues in a practice community
The virtues needed for excellence in any serious practice (craft, sport, relationship) are real virtues — find the practice that calls them out.
Virtue Ethics, Made Practical - Always abide by the three principles
Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Practice deliberately, not just repeatedly
Target weaknesses with full focus and feedback, not comfortable repetition.
Grit: Passion and Perseverance, Honestly Assessed - Eyes-open intimacy: contact without merger
Practice making genuine eye contact during vulnerable or sexual moments as an act of self-disclosure rather than merger.
Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage
Related concerns
- Deliberate Practice Not Just Practice With Friends
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
- Deliberate Practice
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
- Deliberate Practice Breakdown
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
- Deliberate Practice Gaps
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
- Deliberate Practice Interest
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
- Deliberate Practice Not Just Practice As A Parent
Deliberate practice, studied by Anders Ericsson, is focused, effortful practice aimed just beyond your current ability, with immediate feedback and constant correction. It is what separates people who keep improving from people who simply log hours — and it is why the popular "10,000 hours" rule is an oversimplification of his work.
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