Coaching practices for Demon Dialogues Sue Johnson
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- There’s a voice in my head that won’t stop telling me I’m not enough and I’m selfish, and the harder I try to shut it up the louder it gets
- We have the same fight over and over with different words on top, and in the moment it always feels like it’s their fault
- There’s a fear I’ve never actually said out loud to my partner
- I want to actually tell my partner how scared I am of losing them, in a real way and not in the middle of a fight
- One part of me wants out, another part won’t let me, and they just war with each other on a loop
Practices that may help
- The inner critic dialogue
Give the inner critic a voice on paper and then respond — the goal is dialogue, not silencing.
Shadow Work - Recognize your demon dialogue -- the negative cycle running your relationship
Every stuck couple has a predictable negative loop; naming it together is the first step out.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's framework -- derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy -- for strengthening adult attachment bonds through seven structured conversations about accessibility, responsiveness, and emotional safety. The therapist-guided EFT version has strong trial evidence; the self-guided book program is less studied but grounded in the same mechanisms. - Have the core Hold Me Tight conversation
Share what you most need to be heard saying, and receive what your partner most needs you to hear.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Have a Hold Me Tight conversation
Sue Johnson's structured conversation for reaching past defensiveness to the attachment need underneath.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair - Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT)
Give voice to different internal parts — the critic, the anxious self, the compassionate self — to understand and change the dialogue.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic - Engage in genuine philosophical dialogue
Have a conversation with the goal of getting clearer together, not of winning or validating.
The Examined Life - Make it safe
Protect psychological safety so the other person can stay in dialogue instead of going silent or hostile.
Crucial Conversations, Made Practical - Sing the thought: defusion through altered delivery
Repeat a sticky thought in a ridiculous voice, tune, or accent to reveal it as a mental product, not a fact.
Cognitive Defusion (ACT), Made Practical - Presenting understanding to a teacher (sanzen)
Bring your response to the koan directly to a teacher — not as a verbal explanation but as a live demonstration.
Zen Koans: Inquiry Beyond Reason
Related concerns
- Hold Me Tight Sue Johnsons Seven Conversations For Lasting Love At Work
Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's framework -- derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy -- for strengthening adult attachment bonds through seven structured conversations about accessibility, responsiveness, and emotional safety. The therapist-guided EFT version has strong trial evidence; the self-guided book program is less studied but grounded in the same mechanisms.
- Raw Spots Sue Johnson
A raw spot is a point of attachment vulnerability -- a past wound that current events trigger disproportionately.
Find and understand your raw spots
- Sue Johnson Hold Me Tight
Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's framework -- derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy -- for strengthening adult attachment bonds through seven structured conversations about accessibility, responsiveness, and emotional safety. The therapist-guided EFT version has strong trial evidence; the self-guided book program is less studied but grounded in the same mechanisms.
- Eft Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Sue Johnson, is a couples intervention grounded in attachment theory: it treats distress in close relationships as an attachment injury, and focuses on creating new emotional experiences that rebuild the sense of safe, reliable connection. EFT has one of the stronger evidence bases in couples therapy, with multiple randomized controlled trials showing sustained improvement -- though findings are not uniformly positive and many studies are small.
- Eft Demon Dialogue
Give the inner critic a voice on paper and then respond — the goal is dialogue, not silencing.
The inner critic dialogue
- Hold Me Tight Conversation Eft
Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's framework -- derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy -- for strengthening adult attachment bonds through seven structured conversations about accessibility, responsiveness, and emotional safety. The therapist-guided EFT version has strong trial evidence; the self-guided book program is less studied but grounded in the same mechanisms.
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