Coaching practices for Sue Johnson Hold Me Tight
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- There’s a fear I’ve never actually said out loud to my partner
- I want to actually tell my partner how scared I am of losing them, in a real way and not in the middle of a fight
- We barely touch anymore unless it’s leading to sex, and I miss the easy warmth
- Every so often we get it right
- Sex with my partner has started to feel mechanical and disconnected, like two people going through the motions, and I’m realizing I can’t be fully present in bed when I don’t feel emotionally safe with them the rest of the time.
Practices that may help
- Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's framework -- derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy -- for strengthening adult attachment bonds through seven structured conversations about accessibility, responsiveness, and emotional safety. The therapist-guided EFT version has strong trial evidence; the self-guided book program is less studied but grounded in the same mechanisms. - Have the core Hold Me Tight conversation
Share what you most need to be heard saying, and receive what your partner most needs you to hear.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Have a Hold Me Tight conversation
Sue Johnson's structured conversation for reaching past defensiveness to the attachment need underneath.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair - Use physical touch to reinforce emotional safety
Touch is an attachment behavior: reaching for and being met physically reinforces the emotional bond.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Celebrate and reinforce moments of secure connection
When you get it right -- when you reach and are met -- name it and savour it.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Connect sex with emotional safety, not just desire
In secure attachment, sex and emotional safety are linked: vulnerability is the engine of both.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Find and understand your raw spots
A raw spot is a point of attachment vulnerability -- a past wound that current events trigger disproportionately.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Sue Johnson, is a couples intervention grounded in attachment theory: it treats distress in close relationships as an attachment injury, and focuses on creating new emotional experiences that rebuild the sense of safe, reliable connection. EFT has one of the stronger evidence bases in couples therapy, with multiple randomized controlled trials showing sustained improvement -- though findings are not uniformly positive and many studies are small. - Recognize your demon dialogue -- the negative cycle running your relationship
Every stuck couple has a predictable negative loop; naming it together is the first step out.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
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- Hold Me Tight Sue Johnsons Seven Conversations For Lasting Love At Work
Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's framework -- derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy -- for strengthening adult attachment bonds through seven structured conversations about accessibility, responsiveness, and emotional safety. The therapist-guided EFT version has strong trial evidence; the self-guided book program is less studied but grounded in the same mechanisms.
- Hold Me Tight Conversation Eft
Hold Me Tight is Sue Johnson's framework -- derived from Emotionally Focused Therapy -- for strengthening adult attachment bonds through seven structured conversations about accessibility, responsiveness, and emotional safety. The therapist-guided EFT version has strong trial evidence; the self-guided book program is less studied but grounded in the same mechanisms.
- Hold Me Tight Conversation Steps
Share what you most need to be heard saying, and receive what your partner most needs you to hear.
Have the core Hold Me Tight conversation
- Raw Spots Sue Johnson
A raw spot is a point of attachment vulnerability -- a past wound that current events trigger disproportionately.
Find and understand your raw spots
- Eft Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Sue Johnson, is a couples intervention grounded in attachment theory: it treats distress in close relationships as an attachment injury, and focuses on creating new emotional experiences that rebuild the sense of safe, reliable connection. EFT has one of the stronger evidence bases in couples therapy, with multiple randomized controlled trials showing sustained improvement -- though findings are not uniformly positive and many studies are small.
- Speak Attachment Needs
For avoidant patterns, catch the urge to withdraw and stay engaged a little longer.
Notice and soften avoidant deactivation
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