Coaching practices for Dennett Four Rules

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• When I disagree with someone I go straight for the rebuttal, and even when I’m right it makes them defensive and nothing changes
• A rule of thumb that served me brilliantly in one area keeps failing me somewhere else, and I can’t figure out why
• I keep telling myself "use my phone less," and it never works because every single time I pick it up it’s a fresh willpower fight
• I’m staring at a case where following the rule to the letter would clearly produce the wrong result
• I’ve quietly slid into a do-one-day, skip-the-next rhythm and I tell myself I’m "technically still consistent"

Practices that may help

1. Apply Dennett’s four rules for critical commentary
   Before criticizing: restate charitably, list agreements, name what you’ve learned, then — and only then — rebut.
   Steelmanning
2. Match your heuristic to the structure of the environment
   A good rule works because it matches the statistical regularities of the environment — wrong environment, wrong rule.
   Simple Heuristics: Gerd Gigerenzer’s Case for Fast and Frugal Thinking
3. Set explicit values-based rules for each technology you keep
   For every digital tool you reintroduce, write down exactly which value it serves and under what conditions.
   Attention Reclaiming: Digital Minimalism in Practice
4. Practice equity: bend general rules to particular cases
   Apply rules with awareness that no rule perfectly fits every situation; the wise person corrects for the fit.
   Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom
5. Don’t let the rule become permission to coast
   Alternating miss-do-miss-do technically obeys the rule but kills the habit.
   The Two-Day Rule: Never Skip Twice
6. Respect the fill-order every single day — rocks before sand
   Make it a hard personal rule: no sand, no water, until a rock has been touched today.
   The Pickle Jar Theory of Time Management
7. Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
   A bright-line rule is a clear, unambiguous limit with no judgment calls — "no alcohol on weekdays" rather than "drink less." They are easier to keep than willpower-by-degrees because they remove the in-the-moment negotiation where self-control breaks down. The idea draws on real research into decision fatigue, ego depletion debates, and the difficulty of moderation, though "bright-line rule" itself is a heuristic borrowed from law.
8. The Seinfeld Strategy: Don’t Break the Chain
   The Seinfeld Strategy involves marking each day you complete a target behavior on a calendar, building a visual chain that you become reluctant to break. The attribution to Jerry Seinfeld is widely repeated but disputed — he has denied teaching it. The underlying mechanisms — behavioral momentum, loss aversion applied to streaks, and visual progress cues — are well-established in behavioral science, regardless of origin.
9. Warren Buffett’s Two-List Strategy
   The Buffett two-list strategy asks you to write down 25 career or life goals, circle the top 5, then treat everything else on the list as active avoidances — not "do later" items. The story is apocryphal and its precise origin is unverified, but the underlying principle — that near-priority goals steal attention from top priorities — is consistent with how cognitive resources and opportunity costs work.
10. Check whether the rules of your domain are actually stable
    Before applying any probability model, ask whether the rules governing outcomes could change mid-game.
    The Ludic Fallacy: When You Mistake Real Life for a Game

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