Coaching practices for Desire Examination Practice
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- A new want grabs me and I’m off chasing it before I’ve even paused
- I want things I can’t make happen
- I’m sure that getting this next thing will finally make me happy, but if I’m honest I was just as sure about the last few
- I chase the same kinds of things over and over
- I look at my partner and barely see them anymore
Practices that may help
- The Stoic Discipline of Desire
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms. - Examining the desire before chasing it
Before pursuing something you want, ask whether the desire serves you or consumes you.
Santosha: The Practice of Contentment - Apply the dichotomy of control to your desires
Before each want, ask: is the object of this desire in my power, or outside it?
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - Track your desires and their outcomes over time
Log what you wanted this week, whether you got it, and whether getting it produced what you expected.
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
The Examen is a short, structured evening review from the Ignatian tradition: you replay the day with gratitude and honest attention to where you felt drawn toward or away from your values, then carry one resolve into tomorrow. It is a centuries-old contemplative practice; its benefits are best described as mechanistically plausible and widely reported rather than established by controlled trials. - Classifying desires before pursuing them
Before pursuing a desire, classify it: is it natural and necessary, natural and unnecessary, or vain?
Epicurean Philosophy: Practical Happiness - The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly
Deliberately practice seeing your partner as a stranger might — with curiosity, not familiarity.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - Solve practice questions before checking the answer
Work through exam-style questions on material you just studied — and attempt every question before checking.
Active Recall: The Most Effective Way to Study - DEAR MAN: making effective requests
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce — then Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Know thyself: directed self-inquiry journaling
Use the Delphic injunction as a writing prompt: what do I actually want, believe, and fear — and are these things consistent?
The Socratic Method, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Desire Management Philosophy
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
- Epicurean Desire Reality Check
Before pursuing a desire, classify it: is it natural and necessary, natural and unnecessary, or vain?
Classifying desires before pursuing them
- How To Manage Desires
Before each want, ask: is the object of this desire in my power, or outside it?
Apply the dichotomy of control to your desires
- Talking About Desire
Name what you want without reducing it to a problem to be solved or a complaint to be managed.
Talking about desire without killing it
- Do I Want What I Think I Want
See the item in "cool," abstract terms to drain the craving before it drives a decision.
Cool the purchase by abstracting it
- Desire Tracking Journal
Log what you wanted this week, whether you got it, and whether getting it produced what you expected.
Track your desires and their outcomes over time
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