Coaching practices for Desire Management Philosophy
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- I want things I can’t make happen
- A new want grabs me and I’m off chasing it before I’ve even paused
- I keep wishing reality were different than it is
- When I want something I get caught up in how it would feel to have it
- I’m sure that getting this next thing will finally make me happy, but if I’m honest I was just as sure about the last few
Practices that may help
- The Stoic Discipline of Desire
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms. - Apply the dichotomy of control to your desires
Before each want, ask: is the object of this desire in my power, or outside it?
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - Examining the desire before chasing it
Before pursuing something you want, ask whether the desire serves you or consumes you.
Santosha: The Practice of Contentment - Practice amor fati — love what happens
Train yourself not just to accept what is given, but to want it — to find the ground for willing what occurs.
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - Cool the purchase by abstracting it
See the item in "cool," abstract terms to drain the craving before it drives a decision.
The Marshmallow Test and Your Money - Track your desires and their outcomes over time
Log what you wanted this week, whether you got it, and whether getting it produced what you expected.
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - Classifying desires before pursuing them
Before pursuing a desire, classify it: is it natural and necessary, natural and unnecessary, or vain?
Epicurean Philosophy: Practical Happiness - The discipline of desire
Confine your desires and aversions to what is genuinely up to you — your judgments and actions, not outcomes.
The Inner Citadel - Discipline desire and aversion
Want only what’s up to you, and be averse only to what’s up to you — then you can’t be thwarted.
The Enchiridion, as a Handbook - Practice negative visualization to reset desire
Spend five minutes imagining the loss of something you currently take for granted — then let the wanting of it become gratitude for having it.
The Stoic Discipline of Desire
Related concerns
- How To Manage Desires
Before each want, ask: is the object of this desire in my power, or outside it?
Apply the dichotomy of control to your desires
- Epictetus Desire Aversion
Want only what’s up to you, and be averse only to what’s up to you — then you can’t be thwarted.
Discipline desire and aversion
- Talking About Desire
Name what you want without reducing it to a problem to be solved or a complaint to be managed.
Talking about desire without killing it
- The Stoic Discipline Of Desire Before Bed
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
- How To Want What You Have
Before each want, ask: is the object of this desire in my power, or outside it?
- Stoic Discipline Of Desire
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
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