Coaching practices for Developmental Feedback
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- All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation
- Whenever I ask how I’m doing, the answer comes back as a verdict on what I already screwed up, and I spend the whole conversation defending myself instead of actually learning anything I could use next time.
- When someone critiques my work I either avoid asking for it at all, or I fixate on whether it means I’m bad at this
- I tend to bite my tongue in the moment and save things up for the formal review, and then I dump weeks of accumulated issues on someone all at once
- I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
Practices that may help
- Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials. - Ask for ideas about the future, not assessments of the past
Replace "how did I do?" with "what ideas do you have for how I could do better?"
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response. - Feedback: extract the signal, ignore the noise
Seek feedback fast, but use the part that actually tells you how to improve.
Ultralearning: Aggressive, Self-Directed Learning - Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
The Johari Window - Calibrate feedback frequency to the behavior cycle
Match how often you check feedback to how often the behavior occurs — too frequent is noise, too rare is lag.
Feedback Loops and Behavior Change - Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Accurate Feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
- Informational Vs Controlling Feedback
"Your solution was creative" supports motivation; "here’s your gold star for complying" undermines it.
Frame rewards as information, not control
- Process Feedback Learning
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
- Corrective Feedback Systems
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
- Feedback And Focus
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedback Frequency
Match how often you check feedback to how often the behavior occurs — too frequent is noise, too rare is lag.
Calibrate feedback frequency to the behavior cycle
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