Coaching practices for Devil Advocate vs Real Opponent

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • Nobody around me will actually push back
  • I keep winning this argument in my head against the dumbest version of what they think, and then it goes nowhere in real life
  • I’ve settled on my position and I can feel how much I want it to be right, which is exactly why I don’t trust it yet
  • I’m completely certain I’m right and the other person is just being unreasonable
  • I wave through arguments on my side that I’d tear apart in a heartbeat if the other side made them

Practices that may help

  1. Invite an adversarial collaborator
    Find someone whose genuine prior is the opposite of yours, and work together on the same evidence.
    Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See
  2. Steelman the opposing view before rebutting it
    Reconstruct the strongest possible version of the argument you disagree with — then respond to that.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  3. Ask what alternative perspectives would say
    Deliberately steelman the strongest objection to your current position before treating it as settled.
    Socratic Questioning
  4. Perspective rotation: inhabiting another’s view
    Construct the strongest, most internally coherent version of a view that opposes your own.
    Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
  5. Apply the double-standard check: would I accept this reasoning if it pointed the other way?
    Test whether you are holding your team’s arguments to a lower bar than the other side’s.
    The Scout Mindset
  6. Find the strongest version of the opposing view
    If there are multiple ways to interpret a position, choose the most defensible one.
    Steelmanning
  7. Use a challenge-calibration partner or coach
    Have a more skilled observer set the challenge level — your own assessment is biased.
    Growth-Edge Training: Practicing at the Edge of Your Ability
  8. Simulate the adversary’s response to your move
    Assign someone to genuinely think and plan as your competitor, not just describe them.
    Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail
  9. Recognize decoys in political and narrative framing
    In debates and narratives, an extreme position is often introduced to make a moderate position seem reasonable — identify this before updating.
    The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice
  10. Distinguish steelmanning from sycophancy
    Charitably interpreting a position is not the same as agreeing with it, refusing to disagree, or softening your critique to avoid conflict.
    Steelmanning

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