Coaching practices for Different Priorities Negotiation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- We’ve got several things on the table and we keep splitting each one right down the middle, leaving us both half-satisfied on everything
- We’re haggling issue by issue, splitting the difference on each one, and it’s leaving us both worse off
- There are several things on the table here, and some matter way more to me than others
- We’re treating this like a fight when actually we both want the same outcome
- We’re both dug into our numbers and it feels totally deadlocked, but I have a hunch we’re not actually that far apart underneath
Practices that may help
- Trade across differing priorities
Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - Trade across issues where each side has different priorities
Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation - Logroll by trading issues of unequal importance
Concede on what matters less to you in exchange for gains on what matters more.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Identify compatible interests for joint gain
When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation - Focus on interests, not positions
Ask why a position is taken — the underlying interest is almost always more negotiable than the stated demand.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Separate the people from the problem
Address relationship concerns and substantive issues in different registers — treating people well and the problem hard.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Run a single weekly priority-setting meeting
Replace ad-hoc priority requests with one weekly meeting where the whole team re-sorts together.
The Eisenhower Matrix for Teams - Define "important" explicitly as a team
Before sorting tasks, align on what "important" means — which goals, for whom, over what time horizon.
The Eisenhower Matrix for Teams - Distinguish substantive, procedural, and psychological interests
The interest behind a position is often not about the money or the terms — it may be about face, fairness, or control.
Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation - Maintain at most three active priorities at one time
More than three active priorities is the same as no priorities — attention cannot be shared four ways.
Designing a Calm Company (Fried & Hansson)
Related concerns
- Issue Prioritization Negotiation
Replace ad-hoc priority requests with one weekly meeting where the whole team re-sorts together.
Run a single weekly priority-setting meeting
- Multi Issue Negotiation
When you’re stuck on a single issue, adding more issues often creates room for trades that satisfy both sides.
Expand the ZOPA by adding issues to the negotiation
- Integrative Bargaining Tactics
When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
Identify compatible interests for joint gain
- Integrative Negotiation
When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
- Integrative Vs Distributive Bargaining
Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
Trade across issues where each side has different priorities
- Interest Based Bargaining
Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
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