Coaching practices for Disc Behavioral Styles for My Teenager
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- I handle every disagreement the same way, and it works with maybe one kind of person and blows up with everyone else
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- When my kid acts out I lose it
- My kid has started hiding mistakes and bracing like they’re in trouble before I’ve even said anything, and I think it’s because my first reaction to a spill or a broken thing is always the accusation
- My kid blows up over the same things again and again, and I keep calling it defiance or attitude
Practices that may help
- DISC Behavioral Styles
DISC is a behavioral style model — developed from William Marston’s work — that describes four tendencies: Dominance (direct, results-driven), Influence (enthusiastic, people-oriented), Steadiness (patient, reliable, relationship-oriented), and Conscientiousness (analytical, accurate, systematic). Its practical value lies not in labeling people but in giving you a map for adapting your communication to how others prefer to receive information. - Adapt your conflict approach to the other person’s DISC style
Conflict lands differently for each style — match your approach to reduce defensiveness.
DISC Behavioral Styles - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - DEAR MAN for interpersonal effectiveness
A structured script — Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate — for asking and saying no.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Disc Behavioral Styles As A Parent
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
- How Do You Handle A Child Who Enjoys Getting Others Into Trouble
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
- How To Deal With Teen Self Destructive Behavior And Complete Lack Of Sense Of Responsibility
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
- How To Help My Pre Teen Who Is Getting Into Trouble At School
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- Annoying Kid At The Park
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
- Child Has Been Copying Aggressive Behavior Hitting Adults What Should I Do
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
Refuse to energize negative behavior
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