Coaching practices for Distress Tolerance Skills After a Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • This isn’t something I can fix
  • The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
  • I keep circling the same painful thing for hours and every loop makes it worse
  • I’m too wound up to think or talk my way calmer, and there’s nothing to fix right now
  • I’m too wound up to reason my way calm

Practices that may help

  1. Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
    Distress tolerance skills, primarily from DBT, are short-term tools for surviving a crisis — intense emotional pain, overwhelming urges, or acute situational stress — without making things worse. They don’t solve the problem; they get you through the peak so problem-solving becomes possible again. DBT as a whole has strong randomized-trial support, particularly for borderline personality disorder and emotion dysregulation.
  2. IMPROVE the moment
    Use Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing, Vacation, and Encouragement to get through right now.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  3. Havening to soften acute grief activation
    Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
    Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
  4. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
    Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  5. Self-soothe with the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch to ride out distress.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
  6. Self-soothe through the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  7. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
    Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
  8. Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
    Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
    Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
  9. Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
    Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
  10. TIPP for crisis distress tolerance
    Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to drop overwhelming arousal fast.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical

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