Coaching practices for Doctrine of the Mean
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My instinct in anything tense is to just split the difference and land safely in the middle, but lately that reflex keeps producing limp, wrong answers
- There’s one way I always overshoot
- I keep defaulting to whatever feels easiest in the moment and calling it "being true to myself," but I sense the comfortable choice and the right choice aren’t the same thing, and I want a way to tell them apart.
- We’re deadlocked and the clock’s running, so I just want a fair middle we can both live with and move on
- I behave decently mostly out of fear of getting caught or breaking a rule, and it feels hollow and brittle
Practices that may help
- Deliberate toward the virtuous mean
For any character choice, identify the deficient extreme and the excessive extreme, then aim between them.
Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom - Finding the virtuous mean in a specific situation
Identify the excess and deficiency extremes in a situation and practise hitting the mean — the appropriate response — deliberately.
Aristotelian Eudaimonia: Flourishing Through Virtue - Live according to nature
Act in accord with your rational nature and with the nature of the whole — not by instinct alone.
Philosophy as a Way of Life - Compromising (moderate on both)
Split the difference when a fast, fair, good-enough solution beats holding out for the perfect one.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Ground ethics in love and compassion, not rule compliance
Let care for others — not fear of violation — be the engine of your moral conduct.
The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical - Pursue preferred indifferents without requiring them
Prefer health, success, and good relationships — but pursue them as means, not as conditions of your well-being.
The Stoic Discipline of Action - Test your actions against the common good
Ask whether what you’re about to do serves or damages the common good — not just your interests.
Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection - Practice equity: bend general rules to particular cases
Apply rules with awareness that no rule perfectly fits every situation; the wise person corrects for the fit.
Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom - Always abide by the three principles
Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Act as a rational social animal — remember your dual nature
Before acting, check both: is this rational (consistent with reason and reality)? And is it social (does it serve others)?
The Stoic Discipline of Action
Related concerns
- Aristotle Doctrine Of Mean
Identify the excess and deficiency extremes in a situation and practise hitting the mean — the appropriate response — deliberately.
Finding the virtuous mean in a specific situation
- Ecological Rationality
A good rule works because it matches the statistical regularities of the environment — wrong environment, wrong rule.
Match your heuristic to the structure of the environment
- Prosocial Motivation Stoicism
Before acting, ask: does this serve only me, or does it contribute to something beyond myself?
Orient action toward the common good
- Rational Nature Criterion
Act in accord with your rational nature and with the nature of the whole — not by instinct alone.
Live according to nature
- Stoic Ethics Heuristic
Ask whether what you’re about to do serves or damages the common good — not just your interests.
Test your actions against the common good
- Phronesis Aristotle S Practical Wisdom During Conflict
Phronesis is Aristotle’s term for practical wisdom — the cultivated ability to discern the right action in a particular situation, rather than applying rules mechanically. It develops through deliberate reflection on experience, not through reading principles alone.
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