Coaching practices for Emotion as Opportunity Parenting
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
- The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
- When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
- There are certain moments
Practices that may help
- Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished. - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Be responsive to the child’s needs, not reactive to their behavior
Responsiveness means tuning into what the child actually needs; reactivity means responding to what their behavior triggers in you.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
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Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
- Emotion Coaching Children
Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
- Emotion Coaching John Gottman As A Parent
Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
- Emotion Coaching John Gottman For My Teenager
Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
- Emotion Contagion Parenting
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
- Emotional Agility As A Parent
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
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