Coaching practices for Emotion Coaching John Gottman Before Bed

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• I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
• Every night before bed looks completely different depending on my mood
• I lie down at night and my brain runs a highlight reel of everything I got wrong today
• The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
• By bedtime I’m still buzzing from the day and I get into bed wired

Practices that may help

1. Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
   Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
2. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
   Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
3. The Gottman Method, Made Practical
   Drawing on decades of observing couples in a research "love lab," John Gottman identified patterns that distinguish stable relationships from failing ones: avoiding the "four horsemen" of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling; making repair attempts; turning toward bids for connection; and keeping a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. The observational research base is substantial, though much of it is correlational.
4. Anchor the wind-down with a consistent starting cue
   A repeated pre-sleep ritual — a specific tea, a book, a certain playlist — becomes a conditioned cue that induces sleepiness over time.
   The Wind-Down Routine: Engineering Your Path to Sleep
5. Write three good things and their causes each evening
   Before sleep, write three specific good things that happened and — crucially — why each one happened.
   Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
6. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
   A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
7. Evening yoga routine for sleep
   A gentle 15-minute yoga sequence 30–60 minutes before bed lowers cortisol and core temperature to accelerate sleep onset.
   Yoga for Stress: What the Research Shows
8. Use GIVE as a full sequence in high-stakes conversations
   Run all four GIVE components together — gentleness, interest, validation, and ease — for conversations where the relationship is on the line.
   GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations
9. Turn toward bids for connection
   Respond to small, everyday bids for attention as if they matter — because they do.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
10. Priming (the 10-minute morning routine)
    Three short blocks — gratitude, connection, and outcome rehearsal — to set your default state before the day sets it for you.
    Tony Robbins’ Core Practices

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