Coaching practices for Emotion Coaching John Gottman When Burned Out

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
• I treat my own bad moods as background static to just power through, and then I’m baffled when my focus and drive keep collapsing
• I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
• By the time I get to the people who matter I’ve got nothing left to give them
• The big blowup is over but I’m completely wrung out

Practices that may help

1. Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
   Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
2. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
   A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
3. Manage emotional energy
   Cultivate positive emotional states deliberately, since they fuel performance and connection.
   The Power of Full Engagement, Made Practical
4. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
   Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
5. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
   Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
   Energy Management, Not Time Management
6. Recover and recharge after intense emotion
   After an emotional peak, deliberately allow recovery time — intense arousal depletes resources.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
7. Match coping mode to what is actually controllable
   Use problem-focused coping when you can change the situation; emotion-focused coping when you cannot.
   Stress Inoculation Training
8. Use positive emotions to restore self-control capacity
   Induce positive affect after a demanding self-control period to accelerate recovery.
   Self-Regulation Failure and Ego Depletion
9. Build sanctuaries for renewal outside the system
   Maintain relationships and practices outside the organizational system that restore perspective and capacity.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
10. The Gottman Method, Made Practical
    Drawing on decades of observing couples in a research "love lab," John Gottman identified patterns that distinguish stable relationships from failing ones: avoiding the "four horsemen" of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling; making repair attempts; turning toward bids for connection; and keeping a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. The observational research base is substantial, though much of it is correlational.

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