Coaching practices for Emotional Intelligence During a Big Change
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- Something big happened and I feel two opposite things at once
- I’m about to make a big call, but I came into it already wound up from something completely unrelated earlier today, and I’m worried that leftover mood is quietly tilting how I’m weighing this
- When a big emotion hits, it becomes the whole world
- When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
- It’s never the logistics that wreck me, it’s the feeling
Practices that may help
- Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously
When something significant happens, look for two or more emotions that coexist — even contradictory ones.
The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary - Name your emotional state before making an important decision
Identify and name the emotion you are in before committing to a significant choice.
The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary - Recognize aware presence within strong emotion
When a strong emotion arises, shift to noticing the awareness in which the emotion appears rather than being swept by it.
Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical - Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Emotional Agility, Made Practical
Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base. - Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations - Develop emotional courage
Choose discomfort deliberately when the values-aligned path is harder — courage is a practice, not a trait.
Emotional Agility, Made Practical - Update your love map after major life changes
When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
Emotional Agility, Made Practical - Social skill
Manage relationships, navigate conflict, and influence well by applying the other four skills in interaction.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Emotional Agility During A Big Change
Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
- Awe Emotion Psychology
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
Understand the function of the emotion
- Emotional Agility
Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
- Emotional Agility After A Setback
Change how you interpret a stressor — its meaning, scope, and permanence — to change its emotional impact.
Reframe through cognitive reappraisal
- Emotional Agility At Work
Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
- Emotional Agility Before Bed
Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
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