Coaching practices for Emotional Agility During a Big Change

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  • There’s a conversation I know I need to have
  • I keep waiting until I feel ready or motivated before I move on the thing that matters, and that feeling never quite arrives, so weeks pass with me planning some big change instead of just taking one small step today.
  • Something big happened and I feel two opposite things at once
  • My mood keeps making my decisions for me
  • The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it

Practices that may help

  1. Emotional Agility, Made Practical
    Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
  2. Develop emotional courage
    Choose discomfort deliberately when the values-aligned path is harder — courage is a practice, not a trait.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  3. Make tiny tweaks, not heroic leaps
    Change behavior by adjusting the smallest action in the direction of your values — not by waiting until you feel ready.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  4. Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously
    When something significant happens, look for two or more emotions that coexist — even contradictory ones.
    The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
  5. Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
    Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  6. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
    Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  7. Update your love map after major life changes
    When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
    Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
  8. Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
    Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
    Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
  9. Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
    Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
    Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
  10. Modify situations before entering them
    When you must enter a difficult situation, shape it in advance to reduce its emotional cost.
    Situation Selection, Made Practical

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