Coaching practices for Emotional Intelligence in a New Job

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I can be fine one-on-one but the second a conversation gets tense it slides into a fight before I know it
  • By the time I get to the people who matter I’ve got nothing left to give them
  • I’ll snap at someone or make a bad call and only realize hours later that I was already in a mood the whole time
  • I just took over a brand-new team and everyone’s being polite and looking to me for everything
  • Something sets me off and I’m already reacting before I’ve even thought

Practices that may help

  1. Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
    Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman, is the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and others, often grouped into self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill. The component skills are real and trainable, but the sweeping popular claims (e.g., that EQ predicts success better than IQ) are contested and should be read with caution.
  2. Social skill
    Manage relationships, navigate conflict, and influence well by applying the other four skills in interaction.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  3. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
    Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
    Energy Management, Not Time Management
  4. Self-awareness
    Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  5. Emotional Agility, Made Practical
    Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
  6. Forming: provide clarity before connection
    In the first stage, a new team needs structure and purpose more than it needs team-building.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
  7. Self-regulation
    Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  8. Use genius mapping in onboarding
    Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
    The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)
  9. Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously
    When something significant happens, look for two or more emotions that coexist — even contradictory ones.
    The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
  10. Empathy
    Accurately read and take seriously what other people are feeling.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical

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