Coaching practices for Emotional Intelligence with My Team

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I can be fine one-on-one but the second a conversation gets tense it slides into a fight before I know it
  • I keep being sure I know what someone’s feeling and acting on it, only to find out I read them completely wrong
  • By the time I get to the people who matter I’ve got nothing left to give them
  • On paper this is the obviously rational call, but there’s a gut unease about it nobody will say out loud because we can’t justify it logically
  • I feel like I have to look certain and have all the answers in front of my team, and I’m starting to wonder if that very armor is exactly why none of them will admit when they’re unsure either.

Practices that may help

  1. Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
    Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman, is the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and others, often grouped into self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill. The component skills are real and trainable, but the sweeping popular claims (e.g., that EQ predicts success better than IQ) are contested and should be read with caution.
  2. Social skill
    Manage relationships, navigate conflict, and influence well by applying the other four skills in interaction.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  3. Emotional Agility, Made Practical
    Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
  4. Empathy
    Accurately read and take seriously what other people are feeling.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  5. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
    Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
    Energy Management, Not Time Management
  6. Red hat: name the emotions without justifying them
    Give feelings a legitimate place in the discussion — the red hat makes emotional data explicit so it stops running covertly.
    Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical
  7. Model vulnerability and uncertainty as a leader to accelerate safety
    Deliberately share your own uncertainties, mistakes, and questions — it gives permission for others to do the same.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
  8. Self-regulation
    Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  9. Expand the IZOF profile to include positive and negative emotions
    Map which emotions — not just anxiety — are functional for your performance, and which are dysfunctional.
    The Zone of Optimal Functioning: Hanin’s IZOF Model
  10. Self-awareness
    Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical

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