Coaching practices for Expectancy Violation

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  • In the moment I love making the big enthusiastic promise
  • I was sure the win was coming and it didn’t
  • I keep avoiding this even though I’m capable of it and I do care, and I can’t explain why
  • I face the thing, nothing bad happens, and yet my fear never seems to update
  • I keep putting this off because deep down I don’t think I can actually pull it off

Practices that may help

  1. Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
    Jacquelynne Eccles’s expectancy-value theory proposes that motivation to pursue a task is jointly determined by two factors: expectancy (your belief that you can succeed) and value (how much you care about success). Both are required — high value with low expectancy produces anxiety and avoidance; high expectancy with low value produces competent indifference. The theory has a substantial empirical base primarily in academic achievement contexts, with reasonable generalisation to broader life domains.
  2. Build reliability by making smaller, keepable promises
    Under-promise consistently, then exceed rather than over-promise and fall short.
    The Trust Triangle
  3. Actively manage the dopamine dip when a reward doesn’t arrive
    Disappointment is a prediction error in reverse — acknowledge it instead of pushing through it.
    Reward Prediction Error: Using Dopamine Science to Stay Motivated
  4. Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers
    Others’s expectations and transmitted values shape whether you believe you belong in a domain — making implicit messages explicit clears hidden motivation blocks.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  5. Violation of expectancy: test the feared prediction
    Before each exposure, make an explicit prediction of what will happen — then check whether you were right.
    Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
  6. Raise your expectancy of success before starting
    Boost confidence that effort will actually lead to a good outcome — low expectancy is a core driver of delay.
    The Procrastination Equation, Made Practical
  7. Know the three conditions that produce overjustification
    The effect requires: initial intrinsic interest + expected reward + reward contingent on doing the task.
    The Overjustification Effect: When Rewards Kill Motivation
  8. Create psychological safety around missing a stretch target
    Stretch goals only produce honest effort when missing them is treated as data, not failure.
    Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire
  9. Build expectancy through mastery experiences, not just affirmations
    Expectancy — the belief that you can succeed — grows from actual small wins, not self-talk.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  10. Use unexpected rather than pre-committed rewards
    Unexpected rewards after a good performance rarely undermine motivation; expected rewards often do.
    Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation: What the Research Actually Shows

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