Coaching practices for Experiential Learning Parenting
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- My kid won’t put on the coat, won’t pack the lunch, and every fiber of me wants to swoop in and save them from the small fallout
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
Practices that may help
- Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Exploration with guardrails
Give the learner latitude to experiment independently while keeping consequences bounded.
Cognitive Apprenticeship: Learning by Making Thinking Visible - Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
Related concerns
- When Special Time Follow The Child
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
- How Can I Help My Child Learn To Learn Better
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- How To Help My Child Explore Hockey Without Fully Investing In It
Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
- Nature And Movement As A Parent
When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
- Autogenic Training As A Parent
Offer self-directed options in practice — which drill, how many reps, which cue — to enhance intrinsic motivation and learning.
Give performers choice within practice to support autonomy
- Creative Confidence As A Parent
Creative confidence, as defined by Tom and David Kelley of IDEO, is the belief that you can generate good ideas and act on them — and research on self-efficacy shows it is learnable, not fixed. The core method is accumulating small creative wins through guided practice, which rebuilds confidence that was typically damaged by early criticism or comparison.
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