Coaching practices for Explanatory Style

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• When something actually goes well for me, I wave it off as luck or someone else’s doing
• I’ve written out my own best explanation of this, and now I want to hold it up against how a real expert explains the same thing
• It all feels clear and connected in my head, but the second I try to actually write the explanation out the whole thing falls apart and I see how many steps I was just hand-waving over.
• I bring my careful facts and figures to this big-picture, high-energy person and watch their eyes glaze over
• When I try to explain this to someone who knows nothing about it and they keep asking "but why does that happen?" at exactly the spots I’d normally skate over, I get stuck and exposed

Practices that may help

1. Explanatory Style: Optimism, Pessimism, and Learned Optimism
   Explanatory style is the habitual way you explain why things happen — pessimists read setbacks as permanent, pervasive, and personal, while optimists read them as temporary, specific, and changeable. Martin Seligman’s research links pessimistic style to depression risk and shows it can be shifted by learning to dispute pessimistic explanations.
2. Explain good events optimistically too
   Read your successes as permanent, pervasive, and personal — the optimist’s mirror of the three Ps.
   Explanatory Style: Optimism, Pessimism, and Learned Optimism
3. Expert-explanation comparison
   After explaining a concept yourself, compare your explanation to an expert’s and locate the differences.
   Illusion of Explanatory Depth: You Know Less Than You Think
4. Write the explanation, do not just think it
   Put the "why" in writing so vague mental hand-waving cannot pass as understanding.
   Elaborative Interrogation: Ask "Why Is This True?"
5. Adapt to Expressives: lead with energy, vision, and big picture
   With high-assertiveness, high-responsiveness people, match their enthusiasm and connect to the larger story.
   Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate
6. Third-party explanation test
   Explain the concept to a person who knows nothing about it and let their questions expose your gaps.
   Illusion of Explanatory Depth: You Know Less Than You Think
7. For many decisions, going with your gut outperforms lengthy analysis
   Over-explaining reasons for a preference can actually detgrade the quality of affective predictions.
   Affect Forecasting: Why You Mispredicted How You’d Feel
8. Articulation prompts
   Ask learners to explain their reasoning before, during, and after a task to surface and strengthen tacit knowledge.
   Cognitive Apprenticeship: Learning by Making Thinking Visible
9. Practice flexible optimism, not blind optimism
   Choose optimism where the cost of error is low, and sober realism where the stakes are high.
   Explanatory Style: Optimism, Pessimism, and Learned Optimism
10. Catch the three Ps in your explanations
    Notice whether you’re reading a setback as permanent, pervasive, and personal — the pessimistic signature.
    Explanatory Style: Optimism, Pessimism, and Learned Optimism

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