Coaching practices for External Focus of Attention as a Parent
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- In any conversation I’m so busy watching myself
- I’ve stopped obsessing over my body, but I’m still fixed on the club or the racket in my hands
- My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
- My attention feels welded to the inside of my own head
- Once my attention locks onto the thing I’m scared of, I genuinely can’t pry it loose
Practices that may help
- Shift attention outward during social situations
Direct your focus to what the other person is saying and feeling, not to how you appear.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - External Focus of Attention, Made Practical
External focus of attention — directing attention to the intended effect of a movement (where the ball goes, where force is applied) rather than to body mechanics — consistently outperforms internal focus for both skill learning and execution. Gabriele Wulf’s OPTIMAL theory proposes two mechanisms: external focus activates automatic motor control processes, and it enhances competence need satisfaction. Effect sizes in controlled experiments are moderate to large. - Use more distal external focus for greater performance benefits
Focus further from the body (on the target, not the implement) for the largest attention benefit.
External Focus of Attention, Made Practical - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Attention training technique (ATT)
Practice deliberately shifting attention across sounds — a drill that builds attention flexibility and reduces self-focus.
Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical - Train flexible attention
Practise deliberately moving attention between external cues and internal experience — and back.
Detached Mindfulness, Made Practical - Expanding to panoramic awareness
Deliberately widen attention from its usual narrow focal point to include the full field of sensory experience simultaneously.
Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Direct attention to the effect of the movement, not the movement itself
Attend to where the ball goes or where force lands — not to how your arm or leg moves.
External Focus of Attention, Made Practical - The Formula First-Session Task and Between-Session Noticing
Assign between-session observation tasks that direct attention toward what’s already working.
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
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External focus of attention — directing attention to the intended effect of a movement (where the ball goes, where force is applied) rather than to body mechanics — consistently outperforms internal focus for both skill learning and execution. Gabriele Wulf’s OPTIMAL theory proposes two mechanisms: external focus activates automatic motor control processes, and it enhances competence need satisfaction. Effect sizes in controlled experiments are moderate to large.
- External Focus Of Attention
External focus of attention — directing attention to the intended effect of a movement (where the ball goes, where force is applied) rather than to body mechanics — consistently outperforms internal focus for both skill learning and execution. Gabriele Wulf’s OPTIMAL theory proposes two mechanisms: external focus activates automatic motor control processes, and it enhances competence need satisfaction. Effect sizes in controlled experiments are moderate to large.
- External Focus Of Attention As A Caregiver
Direct your focus to what the other person is saying and feeling, not to how you appear.
Shift attention outward during social situations
- External Focus Of Attention For My Teenager
Direct your focus to what the other person is saying and feeling, not to how you appear.
- External Focus Of Attention When Starting Out
External focus of attention — directing attention to the intended effect of a movement (where the ball goes, where force is applied) rather than to body mechanics — consistently outperforms internal focus for both skill learning and execution. Gabriele Wulf’s OPTIMAL theory proposes two mechanisms: external focus activates automatic motor control processes, and it enhances competence need satisfaction. Effect sizes in controlled experiments are moderate to large.
- External Focus Of Attention With My Team
External focus of attention — directing attention to the intended effect of a movement (where the ball goes, where force is applied) rather than to body mechanics — consistently outperforms internal focus for both skill learning and execution. Gabriele Wulf’s OPTIMAL theory proposes two mechanisms: external focus activates automatic motor control processes, and it enhances competence need satisfaction. Effect sizes in controlled experiments are moderate to large.
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