Coaching practices for Feeling in Control at Work
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- At work I’m capable and on top of things, but around my health (or my money, or my relationships) I feel completely at the mercy of whatever happens
- Every part of my day is dictated to me
- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- I keep delivering work I’m proud of and it somehow lands flat with my boss, and I’m realizing I have no real idea what they’re actually being judged on or pressured about
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
Practices that may help
- Map your locus of control by domain
Notice that you may feel agentic at work but helpless in health — and target the weak domains specifically.
Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency - Increase autonomy over task, time, technique, and team
Reclaim control over how you do the work — Pink’s "four T’s".
Drive: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose - Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Map your manager’s top three priorities
Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Build agency with deliberate small wins
Stack a series of small, completable actions to give yourself direct evidence that you can move outcomes.
Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency - Recognize overcontrol signals in your own behavior
Notice the specific behaviors that signal you are controlling more than the situation requires.
Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness - Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice - Habit 1: Be proactive
Take responsibility for your responses; act on what you can control, not on what happens to you.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Made Practical - Transfer authority with the responsibility
Give people the decision rights and resources the task actually requires.
Effective Delegation, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Locus Of Control Domain Specific Mapping
Notice that you may feel agentic at work but helpless in health — and target the weak domains specifically.
Map your locus of control by domain
- Circle Of Control
Split any stressful situation into what you can influence and what you can’t, then act only on the first list.
Sort the situation into controllables and uncontrollables
- How To Increase Work Autonomy
Define the fence: what decisions can anyone on the team make without checking in?
Clarify what people can decide without asking
- Managing Up Practical Skills For Working With Your Boss On A Budget
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
- Should I Tell My Boss The Work He Did Was Worthless
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
- When Managing Up Understand Manager Constraints
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Understand the constraints your manager operates under
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