Coaching practices for Focusing and the Felt Sense After a Loss

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• When I think about this whole situation there’s something my body clearly registers
• Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
• Sometimes while I’m sitting with something there’s this little sigh or loosening in my body, like something quietly let go
• I land on a name for what I’m feeling and just take my own word for it and move on
• The instant something painful surfaces

Practices that may help

1. Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
   Focusing, developed by philosopher and psychotherapist Eugene Gendlin, is a structured inner-listening practice that attends to the "felt sense" — a bodily, pre-verbal knowing about a situation. Small clinical studies and therapist-outcome research suggest people who can access the felt sense make more therapeutic progress, though large controlled trials are lacking. The self-inquiry skills Focusing teaches are low-risk and widely applicable.
2. Find the felt sense
   Locate the unclear, whole-body sense of a situation before you name it.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
3. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
   When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
4. Notice and carry forward the felt shift
   Recognize the physical release that signals the felt sense has been genuinely met.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
5. Resonate and check
   Shuttle between the word and the body to confirm the felt sense is accurately captured.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
6. Receive what comes with friendliness
   Welcome whatever emerges from the felt sense without judgment or urgency to fix it.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
7. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
   Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
8. Find a handle word or image
   Let a word, phrase, or image arise from the felt sense — not the other way around.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
9. Reframing loss as transformation
   When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
   Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
10. Ask the felt sense what it needs
    Once a handle fits, gently ask the felt sense: "What does this need? What would help?"
    Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical

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