Coaching practices for Functional Behavior Assessment Parenting
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
- The same misbehavior keeps coming back no matter what I do about it, and I’m starting to suspect I’m only swatting at the surface
- There are certain moments
- I careen between cracking down like a drill sergeant and then feeling guilty and just letting everything slide, and my kid never knows which version of me they’re getting
Practices that may help
- Manage your own emotional state before responding
A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Behavioral Chain Analysis: The DBT Method for Understanding Problem Behaviors
Behavioral chain analysis (BCA), a core DBT skill developed by Marsha Linehan, maps every link in the chain of events — from the original vulnerability through the triggering event, thoughts, feelings, and actions — that led to a problem behavior. By making the chain visible, BCA reveals multiple points where the sequence could have been broken, turning a post-hoc autopsy into a concrete prevention plan. - Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Be responsive to the child’s needs, not reactive to their behavior
Responsiveness means tuning into what the child actually needs; reactivity means responding to what their behavior triggers in you.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
Related concerns
- Baumrind Parenting
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
- Responsive Parenting
Responsiveness means tuning into what the child actually needs; reactivity means responding to what their behavior triggers in you.
Be responsive to the child’s needs, not reactive to their behavior
- Active Recognition Parenting
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
- Attention Power Revenge Inadequacy Parenting
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
- Calm Follow Through Parenting
The consequence teaches; the anger confuses — keep them separate.
Follow through on the stated consequence calmly and without anger
- Diana Baumrind Parenting Styles
Diana Baumrind’s authoritative parenting style combines high warmth with high structure — responsiveness to the child’s needs alongside consistent, explained expectations. It is the most extensively researched parenting style and is consistently associated with better child outcomes across academic achievement, social competence, and emotional adjustment, compared to authoritarian (high control, low warmth) or permissive (low control, high warmth) styles. Most of the evidence is observational; causal direction and cultural generalizability require caveats.
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