Coaching practices for Give and Take the Giver Advantage After a Setback
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- There’s someone who keeps taking and taking from me and never gives anything back, and I keep pouring in anyway
- When everything fell apart, a few people really showed up for me and we got so much closer
- When I think about that hard chapter I swing between “it was pure loss” and “it was secretly a gift,” and neither one feels honest
- I’ve come far enough through my own version of this that I want to be the person I needed back then for someone just entering it
- Something good happens and my first move is to hand the credit away
Practices that may help
- Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
Adam Grant’s research shows that “givers” — people who contribute to others without immediate return — populate both the bottom and the top of success distributions, while “matchers” and “takers” cluster in the middle. The difference between givers who burn out and those who thrive is how they protect their own time and energy. The evidence is observational and based on surveys and workplace studies. - Screen for takers early
Identify taker patterns quickly so your generosity flows to matchers and other givers.
Give and Take: The Giver Advantage - Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Name the genuine benefits — without erasing the cost
List specific real positives that came from a hard experience while still acknowledging what it cost.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Share your benefits with others who are facing similar adversity
Once you have found genuine benefits, sharing them with others in similar situations extends both your benefit and theirs.
Benefit-Finding in Adversity, Made Practical - Reattribute good events to yourself
When something goes well, practice crediting your own stable qualities, not just luck.
Optimism Training: Building Realistic, Flexible Optimism - Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum)
Briefly imagine losing what you have, so you stop taking it for granted and brace for setbacks.
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices - Be otherish, not selfless
Help others in ways that also serve your own goals and interests.
Give and Take: The Giver Advantage - Expand the pie before you divide it
In negotiations, surface what the other side actually values most before claiming your share.
Give and Take: The Giver Advantage - Reciprocity
Give something first — value, help, a concession — and people feel pulled to give back.
Cialdini’s Principles of Influence
Related concerns
- Give And Take Taker Vs Giver
Identify taker patterns quickly so your generosity flows to matchers and other givers.
Screen for takers early
- Give And Take The Giver Advantage After A Loss
Adam Grant’s research shows that “givers” — people who contribute to others without immediate return — populate both the bottom and the top of success distributions, while “matchers” and “takers” cluster in the middle. The difference between givers who burn out and those who thrive is how they protect their own time and energy. The evidence is observational and based on surveys and workplace studies.
- Give And Take The Giver Advantage As A Parent
Adam Grant’s research shows that “givers” — people who contribute to others without immediate return — populate both the bottom and the top of success distributions, while “matchers” and “takers” cluster in the middle. The difference between givers who burn out and those who thrive is how they protect their own time and energy. The evidence is observational and based on surveys and workplace studies.
- Give And Take The Giver Advantage At Work
Adam Grant’s research shows that “givers” — people who contribute to others without immediate return — populate both the bottom and the top of success distributions, while “matchers” and “takers” cluster in the middle. The difference between givers who burn out and those who thrive is how they protect their own time and energy. The evidence is observational and based on surveys and workplace studies.
- Give And Take The Giver Advantage Before Bed
Adam Grant’s research shows that “givers” — people who contribute to others without immediate return — populate both the bottom and the top of success distributions, while “matchers” and “takers” cluster in the middle. The difference between givers who burn out and those who thrive is how they protect their own time and energy. The evidence is observational and based on surveys and workplace studies.
- Give And Take The Giver Advantage With Friends
Adam Grant’s research shows that “givers” — people who contribute to others without immediate return — populate both the bottom and the top of success distributions, while “matchers” and “takers” cluster in the middle. The difference between givers who burn out and those who thrive is how they protect their own time and energy. The evidence is observational and based on surveys and workplace studies.
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