Coaching practices for Giving and Wellbeing

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Giving and Wellbeing, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Almost all my discretionary money goes to treats for myself and the lift fades fast, and I notice the moments I actually felt good were the small things I did for other people
• I give people things but it always comes out as a quick transaction
• I get swept up and give more than I can really afford to feel generous in the moment, and then I quietly resent it for weeks and feel the pinch
• My days revolve so tightly around my own needs that I feel a bit hollow
• I give until there’s nothing left of me and call it being a good person, and lately I just feel resentful and empty

Practices that may help

1. Allocate part of your values budget to others
   Prosocial spending — money spent on others — generates more lasting satisfaction per dollar than equivalent self-spending.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
2. Give in ways that strengthen social connection
   Make your giving a moment of relationship, not a transaction.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
3. Give proportionally to stay in a state of abundance
   Give at a level that feels generous without triggering deprivation — so you can keep giving.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
4. Generosity and giving to others
   Use time, money, or attention for others’ benefit rather than your own.
   Self-Transcendence: Beyond the Self
5. Be otherish, not selfless
   Help others in ways that also serve your own goals and interests.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
6. Give your full attention as a form of prosocial spending
   Treat undivided attention as a resource you can intentionally spend on another person.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
7. Tend to yourself before tending to others
   Sustainable tend-and-befriend requires that the caregiver’s own basic needs are met — otherwise helping depletes rather than regulates.
   Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
8. Include acts of kindness toward yourself
   The kindness architecture that builds well-being includes self-directed kindness — not just other-directed.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
9. Share your benefits with others who are facing similar adversity
   Once you have found genuine benefits, sharing them with others in similar situations extends both your benefit and theirs.
   Benefit-Finding in Adversity, Made Practical
10. Cultivate micro-moments of connection (positivity resonance)
    Brief genuine moments of shared positive emotion with any other person — not just close relationships — build the social resources that sustain wellbeing.
    Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical

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