Coaching practices for Goleman Emotional Intelligence
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I can be fine one-on-one but the second a conversation gets tense it slides into a fight before I know it
- By the time I get to the people who matter I’ve got nothing left to give them
- The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
- Everyone tells me to get calm and positive before I perform, but honestly some of my best moments came when I was actually a little angry or on edge
- Something sets me off and I’m already reacting before I’ve even thought
Practices that may help
- Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman, is the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and others, often grouped into self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill. The component skills are real and trainable, but the sweeping popular claims (e.g., that EQ predicts success better than IQ) are contested and should be read with caution. - Social skill
Manage relationships, navigate conflict, and influence well by applying the other four skills in interaction.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical - Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
Energy Management, Not Time Management - Emotional Agility, Made Practical
Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base. - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished. - Expand the IZOF profile to include positive and negative emotions
Map which emotions — not just anxiety — are functional for your performance, and which are dysfunctional.
The Zone of Optimal Functioning: Hanin’s IZOF Model - Self-regulation
Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical - Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
The Feeling Wheel, developed by counselor Gloria Willcox in 1982, is a visual tool that organizes emotions in concentric rings from six core emotions (glad, mad, sad, scared, disgusted, powerful) outward to increasingly specific nuanced feelings. It helps people name their emotional experience more precisely — a capacity research calls emotional granularity — which is associated with better emotional regulation and reduced distress.
Related concerns
- Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman, is the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and others, often grouped into self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill. The component skills are real and trainable, but the sweeping popular claims (e.g., that EQ predicts success better than IQ) are contested and should be read with caution.
- Emotional Intelligence As A Caregiver
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
- Emotional Intelligence On A Budget
Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman, is the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and others, often grouped into self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill. The component skills are real and trainable, but the sweeping popular claims (e.g., that EQ predicts success better than IQ) are contested and should be read with caution.
- Emotional Intelligence When Starting Out
Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman, is the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and others, often grouped into self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill. The component skills are real and trainable, but the sweeping popular claims (e.g., that EQ predicts success better than IQ) are contested and should be read with caution.
- Emotional Intelligence With My Team
Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman, is the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions in yourself and others, often grouped into self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skill. The component skills are real and trainable, but the sweeping popular claims (e.g., that EQ predicts success better than IQ) are contested and should be read with caution.
- Joe Hudson How To Be More Emotionally Intelligent
Manage relationships, navigate conflict, and influence well by applying the other four skills in interaction.
Social skill
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