Coaching practices for Grief and Love Same Emotion
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- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- Everyone’s gone quiet about them, like saying their name would upset me, so I never get to hear other people’s memories
- At my kid’s graduation, at a goodbye, I feel proud and gutted in the same breath and I don’t know what to do with both
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
Practices that may help
- Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Share the continuing bond in community
Talk about the person with others who knew and loved them, keeping the relationship alive in shared memory.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Holding joy and sadness simultaneously
When you notice a joyful experience that also carries loss, resist the urge to choose one emotion over the other.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Allow mixed and blended feelings
Say "grateful and grieving at once" instead of forcing a single, tidy emotion.
Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill - Find a community that recognises your specific loss
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Oscillate between grief and sense-making
Allow periods of pure grief alongside periods of meaning construction — both are necessary.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Validate your own grief without waiting for external permission
Give yourself the recognition that society has withheld — your loss is real because it matters to you.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How To Get Over Grief Of A Loved One
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Grief And Culture
Examine whether cultural scripts about how long and how much to grieve are shaping your experience.
Identify how cultural norms shape your grief
- Healthy Grief Connection
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- How To Cope With Grief And Loss Of A Loved One
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- How To Cope With Grief Of Losing A Loved One
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Find a community that recognises your specific loss
- How To Deal With Grief Of Losing A Loved One
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
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