Coaching practices for Guardianship of a Pre Teen Who Has Experienced Emotional Trauma
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
- When the scared, ashamed part of me shows up, my first move is to snap at it to grow up
- I keep trying to "process" this alone and on some deadline I’ve set myself, and it just leaves me more overwhelmed
- Something scared my child
- My kid is sobbing about something that seems so small, and every instinct in me wants to explain why it’s not a big deal
Practices that may help
- Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Self-applied limited reparenting
Treat the vulnerable child mode in yourself with the care and limits that childhood should have provided.
Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs - How growth is supported (not forced)
Growth, when it comes, is supported by safety, time, and being accompanied — never by pressure.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Name it to tame it: tell the story of the big feeling
Help the child narrate what happened and how it felt — storytelling is brain integration.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Meeting exiles (with care)
Gently turn toward the wounded, exiled parts that protectors work to keep hidden.
Internal Family Systems (IFS), Made Practical - Know when EFT is not enough — and what to do
Self-guided EFT is suitable for manageable anxiety and mild distress; clinical presentations belong with a trained EFT or trauma practitioner.
EFT Tapping: What It Is, How to Do It, and What the Evidence Shows - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Safe Place Installation
Anchor a vivid, calming mental image you can return to when distress spikes during processing.
EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing - Examine stuck points across the five disrupted domains
CPT organizes trauma-disrupted beliefs into five domains — Safety, Trust, Power, Esteem, Intimacy — to ensure none are missed.
Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
Related concerns
- How To Heal Inner Child Trauma
Gently turn toward the wounded, exiled parts that protectors work to keep hidden.
Meeting exiles (with care)
- How To Handle Post Traumatic Stress With My 6yr Old Daughter
Help the child narrate what happened and how it felt — storytelling is brain integration.
Name it to tame it: tell the story of the big feeling
- How To Heal Inner Child Wounds Reparenting
Gently turn toward the wounded, exiled parts that protectors work to keep hidden.
- When Narrative Exposure Therapy Net Lay Counselor Delivery
NET is specifically designed for low-resource settings and has been validated when delivered by trained laypersons — not only psychologists.
Understand that NET can be delivered by trained non-clinicians
- Why Is My Inner Child Part So Needy Or Demanding
Behind every schema is an unmet childhood need; learn to provide what you needed, in a healthy way, today.
Identify and meet the underlying unmet need
- Childhood Memory Healing
Revisit a difficult childhood memory in imagination and rewrite it so the child’s needs are met.
Imagery rescripting for schema memories
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