Coaching practices for Havening Eye Movements

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• A particular scene keeps replaying in my head in vivid detail and the touch alone isn’t enough to pull me out of it
• Even sitting safely in my own living room my eyes keep darting around, checking, like part of me is still waiting for something to go wrong
• I’ve gotten steady gazing at an outer point and now I want to do it with my eyes closed, conjuring a small steady light between my brows from memory alone
• When I close my eyes the picture of what I was looking at flickers and vanishes almost instantly, and I want to learn how to hold that inner image steady for more than a second or two.
• When I’m stressed or anxious I look away, scan the room, avoid people’s eyes

Practices that may help

1. Havening with lateral eye movements
   Add side-to-side eye movements to the touch sequence to deepen attentional interruption.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
2. Slow, deliberate orienting to the room
   Slowly turn your head, let your eyes move at their own pace, and let them land on safe objects in your environment.
   The Orienting Response, Made Practical
3. Jyoti dharana — holding the inner light
   Visualise a steady inner flame at the space between the eyebrows and rest attention there.
   Trataka: The Yoga Practice of Fixed-Gaze Meditation
4. Developing the preliminary sign (parikamma nimitta)
   Gaze at the kasina until you can see it clearly with eyes open and hold its image for a few seconds with eyes closed.
   Kasina Meditation: Concentration Through a Physical Object
5. Practice soft, warm eye contact
   Genuine, warm eye contact activates the social engagement system through the face-heart connection.
   Ventral Vagal Activation: Accessing the Safe-and-Social State
6. Bahir trataka — external candle gaze
   Sit one metre from a candle and hold an unblinking gaze on the flame tip until tears form.
   Trataka: The Yoga Practice of Fixed-Gaze Meditation
7. Activate peripheral vision to shift from threat mode to open-awareness
   Soften your gaze and expand awareness to the periphery — this neurologically shifts the eyes from predator focus to safety scan.
   The Orienting Response, Made Practical
8. Orienting response practice
   Let your eyes and head move slowly around the space to signal to your nervous system that the environment is safe.
   Trauma-Informed Yoga: Movement as a Path to Safety
9. Use external anchors instead of closed-eye inward attention
   Keep eyes open and soft-focused, or anchor on an external object, to reduce the risk of dissociation during practice.
   Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness, Made Practical
10. The Orienting Response, Made Practical
    The orienting response (OR) is the reflexive turning of attention — head, eyes, body — toward a novel or potentially significant stimulus. When it completes naturally, it ends in a brief "ahh — not a threat" relaxation. In stress and trauma, this completion is often interrupted. Deliberately performing slow, curious orienting movements — scanning the room, letting the eyes settle — can help the nervous system complete the interrupted check and signal safety to the body. The basic reflex is classical science; the therapeutic application is established clinical practice.

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