Coaching practices for Helping Through Meditation
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- Sitting alone with my own mind tends to dredge up self-criticism and uncomfortable stuff, and I come out of meditation feeling more turned-against-myself and isolated than when I started
- The harder I try to force my mind to be still, the more wound up and restless it gets, and I leave most sessions frustrated that I couldn’t make it calm down
- I sit down and it just isn’t working, so I keep doing the one thing I know
- My meditation is either white-knuckle straining that leaves me tense and frustrated, or so slack I drift off and lose the thread entirely
- I sit down to meditate and instead I just stew
Practices that may help
- Metta at the close — sharing merit and goodwill
End each sitting by radiating goodwill outward, softening any self-critical edge the practice surfaces.
Vipassana Meditation, Made Practical - Let the mind settle of its own accord
Rather than forcing stillness, create conditions where the mind naturally quiets.
Shamatha: The Buddhist Practice of Calm Abiding - Precise hindrance identification before applying antidotes
Before doing anything about a meditation obstacle, name which of the five hindrances is actually present.
The Five Hindrances: Diagnosing and Working with Meditation Obstacles - Right effort — the middle way between straining and slack
Calibrate effort in meditation and in life to the lute string: neither too tight (strain) nor too loose (laxity).
The Noble Eightfold Path as a Practical Life Framework - Working with ill will (byapada)
When aversion, irritation, or resentment enters meditation, meet it with loving-kindness for the person or thing triggering it.
The Five Hindrances: Diagnosing and Working with Meditation Obstacles - Effortlessness (the “no concentration” principle)
Let the technique be passive and easy — TM’s central claim is that effort is counterproductive.
Transcendental Meditation (TM) - Working with sloth-and-torpor (thina-middha)
Dullness and sleepiness in meditation require energising antidotes, not more settling.
The Five Hindrances: Diagnosing and Working with Meditation Obstacles - Tonglen: sending and taking
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - After RAIN: resting in natural, open awareness
After the four steps, rest in the open awareness that remains — not returning immediately to doing.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - Adopt a passive attitude toward intruding thoughts
When thoughts arrive, let them pass without judgment and return to the anchor — no fighting, no scoring.
The Relaxation Response, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Effort In Meditation
Calibrate effort in meditation and in life to the lute string: neither too tight (strain) nor too loose (laxity).
Right effort — the middle way between straining and slack
- When Noble Eightfold Path Right Effort Energy Balance
Calibrate effort in meditation and in life to the lute string: neither too tight (strain) nor too loose (laxity).
- When Self Inquiry Ramana Dealing With Blank Mind Trap
Self-inquiry is investigation, not suppression — don’t try to empty the mind.
Avoid the "blank mind" trap
- When The Relaxation Body Mind Rest Digest Activation
Learn to identify your current autonomic state before practicing, so you choose the right tool for where you actually are.
Rest-and-digest activation — understanding your baseline state
- Effortless Meditation
Let the technique be passive and easy — TM’s central claim is that effort is counterproductive.
Effortlessness (the “no concentration” principle)
- Meditation Difficulty Levels
Once ten-to-one is stable, try counting backward from ten to one, or alternating count and breath sensation as distinct objects.
Raising the difficulty — counting forward and backward
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