Coaching practices for How Can I Become a Good Leader

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  • I lead by directing and correcting and stepping in to fix things, and my team has gone quiet and passive, waiting to be told
  • I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
  • I keep forcing myself to lead the way I think a leader is supposed to, even when it cuts against my grain, and I can’t actually name what I’m naturally good at
  • Everything still flows through me
  • I’ve basically written my team off as weak

Practices that may help

  1. Leading from behind — the servant leader stance
    Influence others more through example, listening, and restraint than through assertion and command.
    The Tao Te Ching, Made Practical
  2. Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
    Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
    Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
  3. Identify your dominant leadership strengths — and lead from them
    Know which of the four leadership domains you naturally operate from and amplify it rather than trying to be equally strong in all four.
    Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
  4. Distribute leadership rather than centralizing it
    Develop leadership capacity throughout the team, not just in the designated leader.
    Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
  5. There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
    The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
    Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
  6. Establish transactional reliability before adding transformational layers
    Clear expectations, fair consequences, and reliable follow-through must come before vision and inspiration.
    Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
  7. Watch for the accidental diminisher patterns in yourself
    Most Diminishers are not aware they are diminishing — the behaviors that made them effective as individuals undermine them as leaders.
    Multipliers: How Leaders Amplify the Intelligence Around Them
  8. Influence through persuasion, not positional power
    Build consensus and convince rather than command — authority is the last resort, not the first.
    Servant Leadership, Made Practical
  9. Channel ambition to the institution, not yourself
    Care more about the organization’s success than your personal legacy.
    Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
  10. Believe — and make the why clear
    You cannot lead people toward a mission you do not understand or believe in yourself.
    Extreme Ownership, Made Practical

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