Coaching practices for How Can I Improve My Self Confidence and Esteem After a Break Up

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• I just bombed at something and I’m stuck swinging between making excuses for it and beating myself up over it
• I’m always making plans with myself and breaking them, and somewhere along the way I stopped trusting my own word
• I catch myself in the mirror and the scale and feel awful no matter the number, and I’m tired of my self-worth riding on how I look
• When something doesn’t land the way I hoped, I write the whole thing off as a failure and myself along with it
• I had a good run going and then I missed a couple of days, and now it feels like proof I’m just someone who can’t stick to anything

Practices that may help

1. Affirm a different value after a failure
   When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
2. Confidence from keeping promises to yourself
   Reliably showing up builds self-trust independent of how any session goes.
   Strength Training for Confidence
3. Shifting body image from appearance to function
   Valuing what your body can do, not just how it looks, improves how you feel about it.
   Strength Training for Confidence
4. Reframe feedback from outcome to process
   After any outcome — good or bad — ask "what did I do well?" before "how did it go?"
   The Confidence–Competence Loop
5. Separate your identity from the broken streak
   A broken streak is an event — not a verdict on who you are now.
   Fresh Start Framing: Engineering Your Own Clean Slate
6. Moving from other-validation to self-validation
   Gradually replace the need for your partner’s approval with the ability to hold your own self-regard.
   Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage
7. The practice of self-assertiveness
   Honor your wants, needs, and values by expressing them in the world — appropriately and openly.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
8. Write about a value that matters to you
   Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
9. Broaden your self-concept beyond one domain
   Actively maintain a multi-domain identity so no single failure can threaten your whole self-worth.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
10. The practice of self-responsibility
    Own that you are the author of your choices, actions, and the fulfillment of your wants.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical

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