Coaching practices for How Do I Build My Self Esteem After a Serious Break Up

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• I just bombed at something and I’m stuck swinging between making excuses for it and beating myself up over it
• I’m always making plans with myself and breaking them, and somewhere along the way I stopped trusting my own word
• I catch myself in the mirror and the scale and feel awful no matter the number, and I’m tired of my self-worth riding on how I look
• I keep swallowing what I actually want and going along to keep the peace, and every time I stay silent against my own wishes it quietly tells me my needs don’t matter
• Lately I feel useless and like I can’t do anything right, and the feeling just feeds on itself

Practices that may help

1. Affirm a different value after a failure
   When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
2. Confidence from keeping promises to yourself
   Reliably showing up builds self-trust independent of how any session goes.
   Strength Training for Confidence
3. Shifting body image from appearance to function
   Valuing what your body can do, not just how it looks, improves how you feel about it.
   Strength Training for Confidence
4. The practice of self-assertiveness
   Honor your wants, needs, and values by expressing them in the world — appropriately and openly.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
5. Build mastery
   Do one thing every day that is challenging and leaves you feeling capable.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
6. Separate your identity from the broken streak
   A broken streak is an event — not a verdict on who you are now.
   Fresh Start Framing: Engineering Your Own Clean Slate
7. Broaden your self-concept beyond one domain
   Actively maintain a multi-domain identity so no single failure can threaten your whole self-worth.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
8. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
   Nathaniel Branden defines self-esteem as the experience of being competent to meet life’s challenges and worthy of happiness, and argues it is built through six daily practices: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, living purposefully, and personal integrity. Branden’s framework is clinically derived practitioner theory rather than trial-tested protocol, though each pillar overlaps with constructs that have their own research.
9. Invoke common humanity in a moment of shame
   When you feel like a uniquely pathetic failure, remind yourself this is shared human experience.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
10. Moving from other-validation to self-validation
    Gradually replace the need for your partner’s approval with the ability to hold your own self-regard.
    Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage

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