Coaching practices for How Can I Stop Harassment About My Medical Condition by the Boss's Friend
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- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
- I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
Practices that may help
- Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Understand the constraints your manager operates under
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus. - Respond non-punitively to mistakes
When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Communicate your spoon count to people who need to know
Give people close to you a shorthand for your available capacity, so they can adjust expectations without requiring a medical explanation each time.
Spoon Theory, Made Practical
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