Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with Rejection Trauma

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  • I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
  • After a rejection or a bad day my mind spins the same dark story on a loop and I can’t find where it’s actually going wrong
  • I keep going over what happened wanting to actually understand it, but every replay just drops me back into reliving the hurt blow by blow instead of figuring out why it went the way it did
  • What happened left me with this flat verdict about myself
  • I know I need to face the memory eventually, but the moment I get near it I get pulled all the way under

Practices that may help

  1. R — Recall the hurt
    Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
    Forgiveness: The REACH Model
  2. USA journaling: write your way to acceptance
    After a failure or rejection, write out the ABC chain and the USA disputation before bed.
    Unconditional Self-Acceptance
  3. Take the fly-on-the-wall perspective
    Replay a distressing event as a distant observer watching from afar, not from inside your own eyes.
    Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems
  4. Identifying and Targeting the Trauma Memory
    Pinpoint the specific memory, its worst moment (the "touchstone"), and the negative belief it installed.
    EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
  5. Safe Place Installation
    Anchor a vivid, calming mental image you can return to when distress spikes during processing.
    EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
  6. Installation of the Positive Cognition
    Once distress has cleared, strengthen the preferred self-belief with bilateral stimulation.
    EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
  7. Body Scan and Session Closure
    Sweep attention through the body after processing to catch residual tension before closing the session.
    EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
  8. Reframe through cognitive reappraisal
    Change how you interpret a stressor — its meaning, scope, and permanence — to change its emotional impact.
    Building Resilience, Made Practical
  9. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
    Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  10. Debrief after each stressful encounter
    Within 24 hours of a challenging event, review what you did, what worked, and what you will adjust.
    Stress Inoculation Training

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