Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with This Kid Who is Really Creeping Me Out in Class
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- When my kid acts out I lose it
- The same menacing figure keeps showing up in my dreams and I wake up shaken, and I can’t shake the feeling it’s not random
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- There’s this thing I keep dodging
- The whole time someone’s talking to me I’m watching myself from the outside
Practices that may help
- Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Working with shadow material in dreams
Treat recurring dream figures or disturbing images as shadow characters and ask what they represent.
Shadow Work - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Approach when fear says avoid
When unjustified fear urges avoidance, deliberately approach the thing instead.
Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge - Shift attention from self to situation
Redirect your attention from monitoring yourself to genuinely engaging with the other person.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Use graduated social exposure
Start with low-stakes social interactions and systematically increase difficulty.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical - Worry stimulus control: confine worry to a designated time
Schedule a 20-minute daily "worry period" and postpone all worry outside it.
Worry Exposure, Made Practical - Build a personal discomfort gradient
Rank your avoidances from mildly uncomfortable to overwhelming, then start at the bottom.
Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
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Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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- Annoying Kid At The Park
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
- Approach Avoided Situations
When unjustified fear urges avoidance, deliberately approach the thing instead.
Approach when fear says avoid
- Child Has Been Copying Aggressive Behavior Hitting Adults What Should I Do
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
Refuse to energize negative behavior
- Explosive Child Method
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
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