Coaching practices for How Do You Deal with Emotional Pain
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep circling the same painful thing for hours and every loop makes it worse
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
- Whatever I’m feeling, I pile on top of it
- I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
Practices that may help
- ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - N — Nurture with self-compassion
Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - R — Recall the hurt
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Acknowledge: name what is hard
Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
The Self-Compassion Break - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Notice the second arrow (resistance)
Separate the original pain from the suffering you add by fighting it.
Radical Acceptance, Made Practical - Apply somatic tracking to difficult emotions as well as pain
The same curious, non-fearful attention that retrains pain responses can be applied to emotional sensations in the body.
Somatic Tracking, Made Practical - Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Do I Deal With Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
- Acknowledge Emotional Pain
Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
Acknowledge: name what is hard
- How Do I Overcome Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
- How Do Men Deal With Emotional Pain
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
- How To Deal With Emotional Pain Alone
Say to yourself: "Suffering is a part of life — I am not alone in this."
Common humanity: remember you are not alone
- How To Deal With Emotional Pain In A Healthy Way
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Give yourself permission to feel
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