Coaching practices for How to Deal with Emotional Pain Alone

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• On top of the actual problem there’s this lonely conviction that I’m the only one who falls apart like this, that everyone else has it together
• Whatever I’m feeling, I pile on top of it
• I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
• I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
• I keep circling the same painful thing for hours and every loop makes it worse

Practices that may help

1. Common humanity: remember you are not alone
   Say to yourself: "Suffering is a part of life — I am not alone in this."
   The Self-Compassion Break
2. N — Nurture with self-compassion
   Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
3. Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
   Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
4. Mindful awareness of suffering
   Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
5. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
   Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
6. Give yourself permission to feel
   Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
7. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
8. Notice the second arrow (resistance)
   Separate the original pain from the suffering you add by fighting it.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
9. Acknowledge: name what is hard
   Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
   The Self-Compassion Break
10. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
    Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
    The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical

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