Coaching practices for How I Deal with Social Anxiety

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Every time I dodge a social thing I feel relief in the moment, but the next one feels even scarier
• The hardest moments are the joins and the exits
• The whole time someone’s talking to me I’m watching myself from the outside
• I’ve gone quiet on everyone
• The moment I’m in a room with people I’m trapped watching myself

Practices that may help

1. Use graduated social exposure
   Start with low-stakes social interactions and systematically increase difficulty.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
2. Build scripts for situation entry and transitions
   Prepare simple, natural openers and transitions so you’re not improvising from scratch under pressure.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
3. Shift attention from self to situation
   Redirect your attention from monitoring yourself to genuinely engaging with the other person.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
4. Schedule social contact as a priority activity
   Treat social interaction as a prescribed activity, not as something to do when you feel ready.
   Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical
5. Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
   In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
   Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical
6. Cope-ahead planning for high-stakes interactions
   Rehearse a difficult conversation in detail — mentally and verbally — before it happens.
   DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
7. Shame-attacking exercises
   Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
   Unconditional Self-Acceptance
8. Deliberately enter low-stakes discomfort
   Regularly choose small situations that trigger the target anxiety so the nervous system learns it is survivable.
   The Confidence–Competence Loop
9. Run toward the feeling
   Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
   The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
10. Build an avoidance hierarchy and work through it systematically
    List all the situations you avoid because of anxiety, from least to most frightening, then work up the list.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical

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