Coaching practices for How to Choose a Game for a 3 Year Old Child

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• Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
• My child reacts to everything on pure impulse and never seems to stop and think how the other kid feels, and I want to actually build that thinking-and-considering muscle during our good calm moments, not just keep firefighting once they’ve already lost it.
• My little one gets so wound up or so shut down that talking goes nowhere
• I keep working on teaching my child to self-regulate, but the same things tip them over every time
• My kid and I agree on a fix and it sounds great in the moment, but a few days later it’s fallen apart again

Practices that may help

1. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
2. Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
   Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
3. Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
   When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
4. Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
   Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
5. Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
   A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
6. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
   Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
7. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
   Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
8. Use logical consequences that fit the behavior
   A consequence that is directly connected to the behavior teaches cause and effect instead of just imposing discomfort.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
9. Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
   Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
10. Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
    Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)

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