Coaching practices for How to Cope with Separation Anxiety Baby

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• I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
• I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch
• I’ve got all these little rules that keep me okay
• The closer someone gets, the more I suddenly feel crowded and start noticing everything wrong with them, and my move is to go quiet and bury myself in work
• When they get close and want more from me I feel crowded and my instinct is just to go quiet and pull away

Practices that may help

1. Fade reassurance-seeking
   Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
   Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
2. Gradually drop safety behaviors
   Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
   The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
3. Drop the safety behaviors
   Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
   The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
4. Notice and soften avoidant deactivation
   For avoidant patterns, catch the urge to withdraw and stay engaged a little longer.
   Attachment Theory, Made Usable
5. For avoidant: stay present longer before withdrawing
   The withdrawal that protects you from overwhelm drives your partner’s fear -- delay it by 10 percent.
   The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle
6. Ritualize hellos and goodbyes
   Make greetings and departures a deliberate, warm full-stop rather than background noise.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
7. Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
   A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
8. Fade reliance on a support person
   Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
   Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
9. Move toward a secure baseline -- in yourself first
   Security is a state you can practice moving toward, regardless of which partner moves first.
   The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle
10. Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
    Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)

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